~Opalance

Some ask me why I stay away from groups, why I refuse to join or approve of or side with any group.

I don't agree with any one group altogether.

Therefore, I do not side with any group over another.

I refuse to put my weight behind anything and approve of anything altogether because I believe doing so stops your growth and your ability to evolve.

It's a fundamental stance on all issues and groups.

I don't side with any political party, denomination, club, fraternity, or fandom.

I do so because I do not approve of them, their stances, their beliefs, and their members.

It doesn't matter if there are some things I like in the group, some people I like in the group, or if it has some good qualities. Unless it's something incredibly simple like "We exist to feed the hungry" there's bound to be something I disagree with, and I refuse to support groups that I disapprove of or enforce rules that I don't agree with.

Yes, I judge people, yes I am an idealist, yes I overlook the good things in the groups and the good people.

I judge the group, not by the people or their associations or values as individuals, but the group, the meaning, status, purpose and reality of their actions.

I refuse to overlook, wade through, or deal with the crap to try and find the pearl in the pig pen.

As with all groups and all people, you look at a group and you judge them by their worst, because that is the first thing you see in a group, and you judge them by your own biased experiences.

So that's what I do, I judge and I alienate because though I'm afraid of being alone, I fear conforming to the things I hate even more.